“I do not know what this man wants from me. For some time now he has been harassing and questioning me about things I do not understand. He has been forcing me to accept that I have other sex partners who teach me how to make love. Recently, immediately he finished making love to me he started insisting again that I must tell him all my sex mates. He insulted me and told me that I make love like a whore”.

These were the words of a grieving lady whose name we had as Irene who hails from Kom. She was sitting beside her luggage by the junction into their house at mile III Nkwen, sobbing with tears falling profusely from her frail eyes.

She revealed to onlookers who had gathered to watch the morning drama that she had been married to Mr. Ambe, a man from Mankon barely four months ago and they have for this period of time had several crisis.

These crises stem from the fact that the man was exceedingly green-eyed. He did not trust her for whatever reason she did not understand. Most especially she was not allowed to walk around with friends. She cannot go to church or the market except in his company.

And whenever she is greeted most especially by another man, he would subject her to questioning in an attempt to find out what was going on between them and if she did not provide a convincing response, he would subject her to violence.

Pointing to some scars beside her left eye “see my face, he almost damaged it with blows” Irene wept. “He has been on me like this for the number of months that I have lived with him. He even tells me that the baby am presently carrying is not his. I noticed that he does not want me to react or do anything whenever he is making love to me, if I attempt doing anything, he will accuse me that I have been thought by my other mates” she added.

But what Ambe has failed to understand is that sex is an instinct and no one teaches anybody. Ambe was quizzed on why he is violent to his wife and sent her packing; he disclosed that it was not all about sex and that he knows his wife better. According to him, he does not trust a woman who challenges him in everything he does.